No one’s out to get you or being your friend just so he or she can make you feel bad. I had a run in with this recently and doubted a friend’s intent. I interpreted something she did in the worst possible way—that she wanted to rub my nose in something. Turns out she had intended to do the exact opposite and was only trying to be on my side.
We all hear things and react to things differently. What I took away from the situation was that if I try to always assume the best about people, I’ll get my feelings hurt a little bit less and waste a hell of a lot less time getting worked up and thinking someone’s trying to intentionally hurt my feelings. Friends don’t do that.
Remember what Eleanor Roosevelt said: “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”